When stress occurs, the sympathetic nervous system can become engaged and our brain goes to a primitive fight or flight state. In this state people have less command of language and logic. Before trying reason with your child, it may be advantageous to encourage them to utilize their coping strategies to return to a balance.

Some kids need help to identify coping strategies.

Using mindfulness techniques as coping strategies can be helpful because many of the techniques can be done at any time.

Below are three strategies:

Mindfulness of Sound

Taking a moment to listen to all the sounds around you during a moment of stress can really be helpful. As a kid who sometimes had a hard time sleeping, my dad would crack open my window and have me listen to the crickets. This was actually a great strategy to calm my brain and allow me to sleep.

Create a Calm Down Kit

Objects kids can manipulate with their hands, sometimes called fidget toys, can help bring kids back to present moment awareness. It also helps to have a quiet area that is designated for these activities. It is important that your child is never sent to these spaces as a punishment. It is best to provide the option of taking a few minutes in this area to regroup when needed.

Find your Anchor Spot

Your anchor spot is where you feel your breath the most prominently. If you direct your child to close their eyes and pay attention to their breathing, the anchor spot is where they will feel their inhale and exhale. Most people report that their anchor is located in their belly, nostrils or chest. Taking three deep breaths focusing on your anchor can do wonders for a nervous mind.

Anne Moigis specializes in counseling for anxiety. She is the owner of Center Pointe Counseling in Grosse Pointe, Michigan. www.centerpointecounseling.com